I understood the real deal about self-acceptance .
While growing up , we are so keen on being accepted in some way or the other-be it socially or academically.
The fear of being unacceptable ironically becomes a driving force in life. Basically,what one is earnestly trying to do is nurture one’s SELF WORTH. Our every pursuit minor or major is directed at uplifting and shining our self worth. Unfortunately, for most of us the endeavours for this goal gets side tracked when we start evaluating our self worth in terms of others acceptance than our own .
Like so many,I too would sometimes consciously and most of the times subconsciously try to fit the mould. The lingering feeling of being a misfit used to really unsettle me to a point it would dip into isolation which was more mental than physical. No doubt my perception of being a misfit was totally hocus-pocus
Over the years having had a paradigm shift in my mindset , I have eventually realised what really matters ,in the whole process of attaining and uplifting one’s self worth ,has nothing to do with any thing major or groundbreaking. What counts and even produces desirable results as a grown up is BEING SELF ASSURED and having MENTAL CLARITY.
Clarity about the choices to make,about the risks to take,about the goals to set,the person you wanna become ,about one’s own thoughts and emotions,about people who u chose to have in life, priorities in life and so on.
I truly believe once these things are set in order ,acceptance or rejection reduces down to mere mental noise. Simultaneously being self assured about one’s capabilities enables a person to streamline his efforts in a much more devoted manner . Not only does all this facilitate a person’s growth but also becomes a conduit to self acceptance! It infuses a drive to become better and when a person is really driven to do something in their life ,one does it anyway even if the odds are against it. He does it not because it ought to be done but because it adds value to his work and self worth.
Funnily, Self acceptance is that Cinderella’s sandle that we try to fit in everyone else’s foot except our own.
